The Fraternity

Why does this matter?

I’ve struggled to write this out. I’m not entirely sure why, but I’ve started, erased, and restarted this essay at least 5 times. Most of this shit is hard to put into words, I suppose.

Here’s one thing I know with certainty: I cannot tell you what Kappa Sigma means to you.

I do not pretend to know how our brotherhood has affected your life. I have no idea if it has influenced your career, or your personal life, whether it has opened doors for you, or if you’ve ever thought about the chapter since becoming an alumnus.

What I can tell you is what it means to me. For me, Kappa Sigma means family.

And I’m not talking about all that “Brother Bergman” bullshit. I’m talking about real family. In each other’s weddings, there for children’s birthdays, argue about everything, but loyal till the day you die family.

Guys that are party harder than you at your own celebrations, and are still there for you in the worst of times- through break ups, deployments, and deaths in the family. Guys that you’d go to war for. That you’d do business with just because it’s them.

I own two businesses because of advice from our crew. I met my wife because of you all.

I cannot speak for everyone, but I am deeply indebted to this fraternity. I have an obligation to repay that debt. I want to be able to pass my experiences on to future pledge classes. I think it’s bullshit to pull the ladder up behind you. Our chapter has done a lot over the years to make the world a better place, and I want to ensure that it can continue to do so.

That’s why this matters to me.

What happened?

Perhaps it’s been all the back and forth of this nauseously polarized politically season, but I’m tired of hearing the drama about chapter decisions, alumni support, and how terrible Winthrop has become.

We screwed up. Collectively. The undergraduates stopped being involved on campus and in the community. The alumni never offered any serious guidance or support- financially or otherwise.

And that’s it. The chapter has been suspended for a few years. Let’s stop pointing fingers at each other. It is not the end of the world, and it is absolutely not the end of Nu Upsilon.

Where do we go from here?

We rebuild.

First, we need to establish a real alumni association. A meaningful, dues collecting, philanthropic organization that can coherently establish and execute a plan for the future of the alumni group and the subsequent return of the undergraduate chapter. A networking group that participates in community service and brotherhood events.

Trust me, I understand that we are all busy. Life happens. Kids, family, work… time is precious. But many hands make light work. And this is not intended to be an every day or every week deal. Perhaps once a month or once a quarter, as we are each able.

I’ll be hosting a meeting to get the ball rolling on this project on Saturday, December 10th at 12:00 noon at Full Spectrum Brewing in Fort Mill.

Once we’ve organized ourselves, we can look towards the re-colonization of Nu Upsilon. Our goal should be clear: to rebuild the chapter better than it has ever been by giving it the support it has always deserved.

Because I, for one, feel my debt should be repaid.